It's hard to think that at my age you can have so many choices and actions that seem innocently right, but when you grow a little older you see how those choices wasn't as smart at the time. In your middle to late teen years this can possibly truly be the case. You can fall head over heels for a guy ( or a girl if you are a guy reading this) and to your excitement they fell for you too. This can get you so caught up how you caught this guys eyes that you think that this is so perfect. Later though, to your own surprise all the hopes and dreams about the future ends just as fast as it started.
For an example, I was in a relationship with this guy and to me it was going great. I was caught up in the gleam in his eye or the light in his smile, that I didn't realize my own reality. So many times this guy was the highlight of my day. He was funny, smart, sweet, and just about everything I thought I could ever hope for in a guy. Everyday he showed more and more reasons for me to like him. I'm not the easiest girl to cope with either and somehow he handled it without getting super frustrated. I tend to over think things and will get into fights, but he stayed by me. He took my breath away to many times to recall. I fell and I fell hard.
Well, one day he decided that he wanted to go back to being friends. (The over used expression as I dont like you anymore (; ) Not to difficult right? It's not a crime. I was so far into falling for him I took it really hard. 1st time I cried so much.
But, my point is, I thought back then I was going to be with him for a very long time. It was so innocent, so harmless, but I moved on and I can look back now and see my silly teenage mind seeing things in a blur passed the feelings. I wonder how I couldn't see through everything. But I am just a teenager what else could of happened.
I can remember all the adults in my lifetime giving me advice about his, but of course I ignored them saying they just didn't understand. ( Sound familiar?) But they have been my age before, they have gone through the same things I go through. Teenagers don't listen, but that's because we are human!
So here is the advice I give you, for all the not best choice you make in life, don't hate the experiences. Look back and acknowledge how you learned from it and how it shaped you. If there is any hate from it, let it go because you can't move on till you forgive and let go. The relationship I was in had a rough ending but I was mad. Once I let it go of all that anger, It was easy to see I was glad it happened and I moved on.
It wasn't to easy, don't get me wrong, I miss those days a lot, but I learned from it and I'm ready to learn from my next dumb teenage choice.
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